The Two Best Ways to Hook Up with a Hotwife

Learn How to Meet Wives Who Will Have Sex with Men Other Than Their Husbands

Learn How to Meet Wives Who Will Have Sex with Men Other Than Their Husbands

You’ve read about Hotwives and how their husbands allow them to have sex with other men. Sounds great! Right? But, if you’re a single man, how do you get to be one of those guys?

Having lived as a Hotwife for nearly twenty years, let me tell you what I consider the two best ways to become what they call a “Bull,” though I don’t personally like that term. (Go here to see why.)

#1. Join a Swinger’s Club

Some clubs don’t allow single men, or they allow them only by invitation from club members.

The requirements for joining a swingers’ club as a single male are simple. Pay the fee (which will be higher for a single male) and follow the rules. Be a gentleman. No means no! Never touch someone without asking. Don’t get drunk or high. Don’t act rude or pushy.

Guys who try to force themselves on any woman in a swingers’ club are shown the door pretty quickly. Don’t think you are entitled to have sex with any woman in the place. A swingers’ club is not a brothel.

It is allowed for you to approach a couple and talk to them. Be as friendly and respectful as you can. Don’t start out by asking if you can have sex with the woman. Believe it or not, some couples go to a swingers’ club just to watch the fun. Not every wife in the place is ready to fuck a stranger.

Have a normal, friendly conversation with couples you meet.

“Hi, where you guys from?” is an easy way to start out.

If they seem not interested, excuse yourself politely and walk away. Don’t ask them why they are not interested. Don’t get pissed off. Just accept their decision and move on.

If the wife does happen to have interest in you and the husband is okay with it, they may ask you to sit with them. Eventually, they might want you to join them in a threesome, or the husband may want to just watch.

My husband and I once met a guy in a swingers’ club who was sexy and polite. When we told him that we were going to go find an empty room, he asked, “Would you like me to join you?”

That was the perfect way for him to say it. Mark looked at me. I gave him a little nod, and then Mark said, “Sure. We’d like that.”

We then found an empty room at the club, closed the door, and had a wonderful threesome. Mark told me that that was the first time that he actually watched another guy’s cock slide into my pussy. I don’t mind telling you, it was pretty hot for me.

You may have to visit the swingers’ club several times before you see any action. But, if you’re polite, dress nicely, learn to approach couples, you will most likely come across a Hotwife who is willing to engage with you either in the club, or at least give you an email address for meeting outside the club.

#2. Join a swingers’ website.

It may cost you anywhere from twenty to fifty dollars a month. But, if you want to find a Hotwife to swing with, you’re going to have to put out some investment.

Mark and I have our favorite swingers’ site. We used to use it to meet couples. Now that I mostly act as a Hotwife, we use the same site for finding my Friends with Benefits.

Your profile page

The first thing to do on a swingers’ site is to create your profile. This is hugely important. Spend time on it, and keep working to improve it. Your profile is basically the equivalent of going you going up to a couple in a club and saying, “Hi, I’m Brad. May I join you?”

The profile photo

Obviously, the first thing I see is the profile photo. It had better get my attention. Before I read a single word of a guy’s profile, I have to like the picture.

Being handsome is not as important as looking friendly, clean, and approachable. You need to look like someone I would want to spend time with, not just in the sack, but over a dinner table or in a cocktail lounge.

Please make your main photo somewhat portrait-like. If it’s a picture of you fifty yards away on the beach, or hiking through the woods, you may as well not put anything. All that tells me is that you are human shaped. Also, don’t take a selfie sitting in your car with sunglasses.

Some guys try to look tough or intimidating and they frown or scowl at the camera. That doesn’t make you look like a lot of fun. I don’t want to date an asshole.

You don’t need to go to a professional portrait studio, although that wouldn’t hurt. Mark once showed me a profile photo of a guy who was wearing a tux in a professional photo. That may sound like overkill, but the photo looked great, his smile was endearing, and obviously, he was well dressed.

I said to Mark, “Is he really that handsome?”

I guess his profile was very effective for me because about a month later I had that handsome guy’s cock inside me.

Your profile description

If all you have to say about yourself is, “Looking for fun,” then I’ll pass. There are a ton of single guys on swinger websites. They all want the same thing. If you want to stand out, write something interesting about yourself. It doesn’t take much.

For example — “I’m single. I love dancing. I‘m happy to be the third in a threesome and would love to meet a Hotwife. I’m a Hopeless dreamer.

Pick out something about yourself that is a little unique and emphasize that. I would rather be with someone who collects antique clocks than someone who is “Looking for fun.”

NO UNSOLICITED DICK PICS! Need I say more?

You can have your cock shots available for those women who actually want them. But, by now you should be aware of how much women hate receiving them when they don’t ask for them.

How to contact a Hotwife

If you join a swingers’ site as a single guy, you’ll need to be proactive. You can’t just put up your profile and wait for women to contact you. It will just sit there, month after month, costing you money with no return. For the most part, Hotwives looking for action don’t go scrolling through the profiles looking for dates.

You need to be the one to reach out. Hotwives will almost always be listed on the site as part of a couple. Therefore, be aware that you will probably be dealing with the husband and it is usually he who will respond first.

Mark is always the one to respond to our private messages. If they are worth reading, he will have me read them. If you send a message that says nothing more than, “Hey,” Mark will simply delete it.

90% of the men with whom I end up having sex have done it this way:

· They are members of the same swingers’ site that Mark and I belong to.

· They have a good, friendly profile photo in which I can see their eyes.

· They have an interesting profile message that catches my interest.

· They contact me first by sending a private message on the swingers’ website.

· They are polite and respectful to my husband.

· Their message is interesting and makes me want to respond.

· They are patient and not pushy.

· They understand that I don’t owe them sex.

· They are willing to meet, again with no promise of sex.

There it is! Two ways that you can have fun with another man’s wife with his approval. It takes time, patience, and a bit of money. But, if you work it right you can be happily involved in the Hotwife Lifestyle.